THE DIVERGENCE OF MAN AND WOMAN SEX AND LOVE LIFE
The sex instinct in men bears a more sensual, a more
physical, and a common and grosser character while in women it is finer, more
spiritual, and freer from physical desire. In men the sex manifestations are
more focused, more local, and more saturated in the sex organs, but in women
they are more diffused throughout the body.
In a boy of 15yrs, his libido or sexual urge may be fully
developed, and he may have powerful erections and a strong desire for normal
sexual relations, while in a girl of 15yrs there may not be a trace of any pure
sexual desire, and this lack of desire for physical sex relations may
demonstrate itself also in women of up to 20 – 25yrs of age. As a matter of
fact, women of 25yrs and above, who have not been stirred up and whose
curiosity has not been aroused by romantic novels, pictures, etc. may not
experience any sexual desire until several months after marriage. But although
their desire for actual sexual relations awakens much later than it does in
men, but their desire for love, for caresses, for hugging, for close friendship
awaken much earlier than in men, and occupies a greater part in their life, and
they think of love more often during their waking hours, and dream of it more
than men do.
A man will generally feel bored of paying attentions to a
woman if he feels that they will not eventually lead to the goal of sexual
relations while a woman can keep up with a man for years without any sexual
intercourse, and being fully satisfied or more or less satisfied with the
sexual substitutes which is embraces and kisses. And this is as good as any
other place to refer to the feeling so with care and persistence to infuse in
the minds of young women, that a persistent refusal of man’s demands is a sure
way of keeping a man’s affections because as soon as a man has satisfied his
desires, he has no further use for the girl.
If a man had to make his choice between physical love (which
is actual sex relations) and spiritual love (which is love making, kissing,
caressing, etc.), he would generally choose the former but if a woman had to
choose, she would generally choose the latter.
The man and the woman would prefer both at the same time; the
physical and the spiritual love. A man can fully enjoy sexual intercourse
without any preliminaries, but with a woman the preliminaries are of the utmost
importance, and if the preliminaries are lacking, she is often incapable of
experiencing any pleasure. The feeling of pleasure is not infrequently replaced
by a feeling of dissatisfaction and even disgust. A man cares more for the
physical and less for the mental and spiritual attributes of his sexual
partner, but with the woman, the reverse is the case.
The love in man –
The love in a man’s life occupies a subordinate place. When a man is in love it
may engross every fiber of him, it may preoccupy every minute of his waking
hours, he may neglect all his work and shrink from all his duties and he is mentally
quick and resourceful (apt) to make a much bigger fool of himself than a woman
under the same circumstance. The man will be less patient, he has less control
over himself, he is less able to love, which is entirely different from loving.
A man may ever love so deeply, and if his love is given
mutually or in return, he will go on with his work in a smooth, quiet manner.
He will do better work for it. Love is a wonderful stimulus, but he will be
perfectly satisfied if he sees his love for an hour or two every day, or even
once or twice a week. And even if he has an important and interesting work to
do, he can part with his love for three months without his heart breaking. But
this is not the same with a woman. A woman who loves will consider every day to
see her love, and on which she does not see her lover a day, she is apt to be
unhappy and inefficient in her work on such days.
When a woman loves, she could and would spend all her time
with the man she loves. She would never be bored of love making (not referring
to sex relations), or merely of being close together. To woman, love is a cloy
less (to supply or feed to surfeit) thing. But a man distinctly does get bored.
No matter how much he may love a woman, too much love-making becomes overly
sweet to him, and he will wants to get away. And when even being merely too
close together, is too prolonged, it becomes tiresome to him, and he begins to
choke and restless and pull at his chains, even if the chains are of cobweb. A
woman should know these facts and act accordingly.
A tendency of men in
polygamous – Man is a strongly polygamous. That many men live through their
lives without having had relations with any woman except their wives is
cheerfully admitted. And that hundreds of thousands of men are unequal to the
struggle, or do not care to engage in any struggle, and live a sexually
promiscuous life, all can testify about that.
A man may love a woman deeply and sincerely and at the same
time make love to another woman, or have sexual relations with another woman or
even with prostitutes. This is common with men, but not so common with woman,
but though it happens every now and then. The prescript Is that in a woman sex
and love life, a woman is much loyal, more faithful, and much more single
affectionate than it is of a man.
This is the way man and woman has been made by nature, by
heredity and by environment. The differences lie in the biological roots, and
it is fruitless to fight and vilify against nature and biology. The proper
thing to do is to recognize the facts and make the best of them.
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